Skip to main content

June 20 Happy Summer! Crucifying the Narcissist

A greedy person brings trouble to the family, but the one who hates bribes will live. ~Proverbs 15:27 

A stingy person is eager to get rich and is unaware that poverty awaits him. ~Proverbs 28:22 

A greedy person stirs up dissension, but the one who trusts in the Lord will prosper. ~Proverbs 28:25 

Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of “GREED,” because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or “GREEDY” person, such a man is an idolater, has any inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore, do not be partners with them. ~Ephesians 5:3-7 

A greedy person: One who grasps everything he or she can with no thought of others. 
A stingy person: One who hordes everything he or she has with no thought of others. 

Narcissism: One who only thinks of him or herself. No one else’s thoughts, feelings or needs matter. It’s all about “the one.” 

All three of these mental attitudes are completely the opposite of “otherish” thinking. They are completely the opposite of who God has called us to be. So, isn’t it interesting to have to accept the fact that there’s really a little bit of that in all of us? We all begin life as greedy, selfish, stingy little narcissists. We can truly say, “I was born that way. I can’t help it!” That would be a true statement. 

Part of the growing up process is learning how to share, care and empathize with others. Discipline is intended to tame the potential monster within all of us. What the greedy, stingy adult person fails to appreciate, probably because he or she doesn’t care to, but what anyone who has ever loved a person in this mental frame of mind knows, is how devastating this behavior is on those around them, especially to their family. “A greedy person brings trouble to the family.” 

It’s hard to live with someone who makes it all about them. How they became so self-focused is probably a story in and of itself. History, however, can only explain, it can’t erase the present damage and pain that is created by the current behavior. Sadly, the stingy, greedy person, usually accomplishes the opposite of what they want. 

The greedy person hordes because they fear going without. Think of the run on toilet paper this past Spring, not to mention meat, hand sanitizer…you get the point. Individuals spent a lot of money to protect themselves from running out, but what if they don’t have a job to go back to, or an income to provide for the now future? Where has all that hording gotten them in the long run? 

The stingy person is afraid to share because they believe that others think like them and won’t share back when they have a need. They won’t ask for help, or help others, becoming impoverished in relationships and material blessing. It is very sad that neither the greedy nor the stingy person have learned that we are blessed to be a blessing. Unlike the greatest commandment that loves one’s neighbor as much as oneself, the greedy person loves him or herself too much and his or her neighbor, not at all. 

How different is the life that displays trust in God. He is not swayed by bribes, as a greedy person may be, because he or she is in pursuit of the truth and maintains a moral compass that knows that type of behavior is wrong. Greed and stinginess are not a snare to their morality. They are not self-focused. They care about the needs around them. They may meet their own needs, but only enough so they can then care for others. 

Do you remember the instructions that the flight attendant always gives, before taking off, concerning the oxygen masks? We are always instructed, to secure our own mask first, and then tend to those who are in need of help, children, the disabled, etc. That is a good example of how the great commandment should be lived out. You don’t put on your mask because you love yourself more, you put it on to enable you to be clear minded while you help those depending on you. You are acting out of love for them.

That’s also why Jesus tells us to remove the log from our own eyes before removing the speck from someone else’s. Jesus didn’t mean do not help at all. He meant get yourself ready to help others by dealing with your own hang ups first. Then you’re more fit to help. You can see more clearly without that log hanging in the way! 

None of us would probably consider ourselves greedy or stingy, or a narcissist. We do have to acknowledge, however, along with Paul, the struggle within us to prevent greedy or stingy attitudes from ruling. Why else would Paul have to mention crucifying our flesh, daily, to follow Christ? We are sinners saved by grace, but grace has not made us sinless in our flesh. That will happen with our new bodies at the resurrection, in Christ. 

Our sins have been forgiven so that we are clean before God, but our sinful nature will constantly be trying to rise up and master us again. This struggle against ourselves will be ours until the day we leave this world. The blessing is, we are not in this struggle alone. Christ is in the struggle with us, giving us the strength to resist and be victorious again. 

When Paul says that, “among you, there must not even be a hint,” and then goes on to list all sorts of character flaws, he sets a very high bar for the church to maintain. However, Christ is within in each of us to purify us, through His discipline so that, in turn, the church itself is becoming more like Christ as we each strive to crucify our flesh to gain His righteousness. 

Prayer: Oh Lord, examine me and help me remove any last vestiges of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Help me to control my tongue properly too. May my words be full of thanksgiving and praise! I am crucified with Christ and now live in Jesus’ name! Amen. 

Song: I am Crucified with Christ 


Grace, mercy and peace,

Greg

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

258. "Remember, Always Remember!"

Exodus 12:1-30 Key Verse: "This is a day you are to commemorate; for the generations to come you shall celebrate it as a festival to the Lord a lasting ordinance." Exodus 12:14 "Celebrate the feast of unleavened bread, because it was on this very day that I brought your divisions out of Egypt. Celebrate this day as a lasting ordinance for the generations to come." (Exodus 12:17) "And when your children ask you, "What does this ceremony mean to you?" then tell them, "It is the Passover sacrifice to the Lord, who passed over the houses of the Israelites in Egypt and spared our homes when He struck down the Egyptians." (Exodus 12:27) The original act was an act of worship as the first true act of freedom for the people of Israel. They had been brought to Egypt by Joseph during a time of famine so that through Joseph God could preserve their lives. ( Genesis 37 , & 39-50 ) After Joseph died, however, instead of heading back to C...

This Little Light of Mine

Scripture: Psalm 130 Listen Link: www.lcepc.org then look for “sermons” tab. It’s the first Sunday of Advent. Today we lit one candle and heard the passage, in Isaiah 9, about the great light! We have heard that the great light is the child born to us on Christmas day. It is Jesus, Emmanuel, God with us. Christmas is a day we will truly celebrate as we have for years and years, and our ancestors before us for centuries. Christmas is coming! Advent means coming! It is good to spend the next few weeks reflecting on all that it means for us. We begin from the depths of darkness. The world is still suffering the effects of sin. We are still suffering the effects of a world broken by sin. And not just the consequences of our own sins. According to Romans 8:22, “We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time.” The fires in California, the floods and storms on the East coast, and all the other natural disasters we hear ab...

August 13 What Is Fitting

It is not fitting for a fool to live in luxury—how much less for a slave to rule over princes! ~Proverbs 19:10   On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man!” Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and died. ~Acts 12:21-23  Wow! Well, what in the world can there be to benefit us here? First of all, perhaps we should review the first Biblical definition of a fool, penned by no other than Solomon’s Father, David himself. “The fool says in his heart, ‘There is no God.’” (Psalm 14:1 and Psalm 53:1) It is not fitting for the fool to live the blessed life. Why should they when they deny from whom all blessings flow?  King Herod was a fool. Now, just to be clear, this is not the Herod who ruled at Jesus’ birth and ordered the slaughter of the male children in Bethlehem. He ...